I’ve been posting about the husband and wife relationship from 1 Peter. In my last article, I concluded with the truth that husbands must love their wives as Christ loved the church. This involves laying down your life for her.

So, in order to know my role in the home, I need to take a close look at how Christ relates to the church.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.

Ephesians 5:25-27 NIV

How did Christ show His love for the church? As I said in my last post, He surrendered Himself up for her. But it doesn’t end there.

Next, He cleanses her by the washing of the Word. Now that brings up an interesting question. Husbands, are you bathing your home in the Word? One of my chief roles as a husband is to make sure that the Word of God is front and center in our home.

That brings us back to the verse we started with in 1 Peter.

Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.

1 Peter 3:1-2 NIV

Remember…this verse actually says that if your husband doesn’t obey the word, he could be won over by your lifestyle. God’s Word should be playing a big role in the life of the husband.

That being said, the fact that your husband doesn’t obey the Word doesn’t stop you, as a wife, from doing your part. In the same way, husbands, the fact that your wife isn’t perfect doesn’t keep you from doing your part.

How does it work between Christ and the church? Does Christ threaten us if we don’t progress as we should? Does He resort to abuse, yelling at us if we don’t fall in line with His plan?

How does He bring about the changes that need to take place in us? We’re told that right now His place is at the right hand of the Father.

Who is he that condemns? Christ Jesus, who died — more than that, who was raised to life — is at the right hand of God and is also interceding for us.

Romans 8:34 NIV

One of the major roles of Christ right now is to offer up intercession for us. That’s how He brings about lasting change in His church.

Based on that, how do I lead my home into God’s will? It’s only going to be by the Word of God and intercession. I need to be making sure that on my part, my home is washed by the Word and intercession daily.

Of course, many husbands would take this exhortation as an unreachable goal. Some would even refuse to think about the work this involves. It would mean giving up some time playing sports, video games, or getting to binge your favorite shows.

But this is exactly what laying down your life for your wife (and family) means. This is how I must submit to Christ in my home. As a husband I must make the Word of God and intercession a priority for me and my family.

Question: What will it take to fulfill this great calling as a godly husband?

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