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The Husband’s Role

I’ve been posting about the husband and wife relationship from 1 Peter. In my last article, I concluded with the truth that husbands must love their wives as Christ loved the church. This involves laying down your life for her.

So, in order to know my role in the home, I need to take a close look at how Christ relates to the church.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.

Ephesians 5:25-27 NIV

How did Christ show His love for the church? As I said in my last post, He surrendered Himself up for her. But it doesn’t end there.

Next, He cleanses her by the washing of the Word. Now that brings up an interesting question. Husbands, are you bathing your home in the Word? One of my chief roles as a husband is to make sure that the Word of God is front and center in our home.

That brings us back to the verse we started with in 1 Peter.

Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.

1 Peter 3:1-2 NIV

Remember…this verse actually says that if your husband doesn’t obey the word, he could be won over by your lifestyle. God’s Word should be playing a big role in the life of the husband.

That being said, the fact that your husband doesn’t obey the Word doesn’t stop you, as a wife, from doing your part. In the same way, husbands, the fact that your wife isn’t perfect doesn’t keep you from doing your part.

How does it work between Christ and the church? Does Christ threaten us if we don’t progress as we should? Does He resort to abuse, yelling at us if we don’t fall in line with His plan?

How does He bring about the changes that need to take place in us? We’re told that right now His place is at the right hand of the Father.

Who is he that condemns? Christ Jesus, who died — more than that, who was raised to life — is at the right hand of God and is also interceding for us.

Romans 8:34 NIV

One of the major roles of Christ right now is to offer up intercession for us. That’s how He brings about lasting change in His church.

Based on that, how do I lead my home into God’s will? It’s only going to be by the Word of God and intercession. I need to be making sure that on my part, my home is washed by the Word and intercession daily.

Of course, many husbands would take this exhortation as an unreachable goal. Some would even refuse to think about the work this involves. It would mean giving up some time playing sports, video games, or getting to binge your favorite shows.

But this is exactly what laying down your life for your wife (and family) means. This is how I must submit to Christ in my home. As a husband I must make the Word of God and intercession a priority for me and my family.

Question: What will it take to fulfill this great calling as a godly husband?

Home Submission

23 Apr

We’re continuing through the book of 1 Peter. We’re currently in a section of Scripture dealing with the different areas of society where we need to be under submission. I understand that this is a controversial word in some sectors.

However, I’m going to try and give the biblical teaching. I want to show the true Scriptural way that we are to arrange ourselves under the structures of human society.

The purpose of this is to bring the Gospel into all the structures of society. So that through us, Christ can be seen.

Today, Peter is talking about the home.

1 Peter 3:1-2 NIV

The actual words used in this verse are more general than this translation makes it seem. Peter says to women, in the same manner, arrange yourself under your own man.

When we were going through some of Paul’s writings, he talked about the three phases he saw in the lives of Christian women.

Phase one was the virgin, submitted to her father’s authority. Phase two is the married woman, submitted to her husband’s authority. Phase three is the widow, submitted to Christ’s authority.

Right now, our society has a huge single female population. Scripturally, this is uncharted territory. There are those who are single and on their own. There are those who are divorced, with children. These are just a couple of examples.

In this post I want to start with the husband and wife relationship. In the marriage relationship, the wife must arrange herself under her own husband. That being said, I want to deal with some unscriptural views.

First of all, I have to give the truth that all women are NOT called to submit under all men. A wife is only to arrange herself under her own husband. I know there are some who teach that all women are to submit under all men. That is simply not Scriptural.

The next thing I have to clear up is that arranging yourself under does NOT mean you are a slave to that person. Again, I know there are some who teach that the husband is the supreme ruler of the home.

Remember from chapter 2, that submission is an internal thing. It is not to be forced from the outside by the husband. It’s a condition of your heart.

In actuality, the husband is not the head of the home. I will leave you with this verse as proof of this truth and continue in my next post.

Now I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.

1 Corinthians 11:3 NIV

Without a doubt, Christ is to be the head of the home.

Question: How does this compare to what we see played out in Christian homes.

The Flow of Authority

11 Apr

I’ve been writing about Peter’s first letter to the church. In my last post, I started talking about godly submission to authorities. We concluded by seeing that submission is always to the powers established by God, not to a person.

This is important to understand, because power always flows down the authority structure. But that brings up a question. What structures are there?

Actually, there are four authority structures that God has established. They are the government, the home, the church, and the workplace. It’s through these that authority flows down from the throne of God to the individual.

When they first hear this, some say that I missed one – the school system. No, God didn’t establish that structure independently. Scripture tells us that the parents are to train up their children. So in reality, the school is under parental authority.

As we talk about godly submission, the true question is “How do I submit?”

Remind the people to be subject to rulers and authorities, to be obedient, to be ready to do whatever is good…

Titus 3:1 NIV

We need to be reminded of this truth sometimes. That word, obedient, literally means to allow yourself to be persuaded by. Submission always allows persuasion to take place.

“What if I don’t like that person?” It doesn’t matter. The only case where you would rebel against the person is if that person contradicted the known will of God.

It’s like what happened when the Jewish Sanhedrin ordered the disciples not to preach or teach in the name of Jesus. These believers made it clear that they had an obligation to serve God rather than man.

Now we can understand what Peter was saying. We must be under submission to the ultimate and sent authorities. That means we must place ourselves in a position to be persuaded by their leadership.

Peter continues by showing us God’s purpose through all of this.

For it is God’s will that by doing good you should silence the ignorant talk of foolish men.

1 Peter 2:15 NIV

Peter always speaks his mind. This is quite the verse if you read it in the original Greek. The apostle says that it’s God’s will that through your doing good, you can muzzle the ignorance of the mindless people.

It’s the next verses that are the key in speaking about submission.

Live as free men, but do not use your freedom as a cover-up for evil; live as servants of God. Show proper respect to everyone: Love the brotherhood of believers, fear God, honor the king.

1 Peter 2:16-17 NIV

Here he tells us to live our lives unrestrained. Yet, as we do this, we don’t hold our freedom as a cloak for evil.

As God’s people, we understand power. We serve the ultimate power. Submitting to the office that people hold, allowing ourselves to be persuaded by the person holding that position.

Then we must place the correct value on everyone. This includes love for fellow Christians. Fear of God and honor for government officials. We must place ourselves in the position of correct submission.

Question: How do you see this operating in your life?

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