I think that so much of our debating and anger over this section comes from both a misunderstanding and a misrepresentation of what Paul is teaching. We need to see this without any preconceived ideas of what’s being said.
Therefore, I’ll try to stick to the simple statements found in Scripture, rather than my personal perspective. The key word is “try.”
Now I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.
1 Corinthians 11:3
Let me get started by getting everyone mad at me! This Scripture is a loaded minefield if you’re not willing to take it at face value. It deals with the issues of authority and submission.
First of all, we’re talking about headship on an individual basis. Notice that both the word man and woman are singular. Paul is not saying that all men are the head over all women.
We make submission a very complicated subject. I’m not going to talk about it much in this post. I’ll simply give you some homework. If you do a study of submission, you’ll find that the specific areas in which a woman is told to submit are to her own husband, or to her own father.
Having said that, this verse is saying that the head of a man is Christ. The head of a woman is a man (either her husband or her father).
Women – Please don’t shut me off just yet! Wait and see where I’m going with this.
All too often I’ve been flagged down by a husband, dragging his wife along. He needed to ask me a “Bible question”.
“Pastor Nick, doesn’t the Bible say that the husband is the head of the wife? Doesn’t she have to submit and do what the husband says?”
Immediately I see a problem in the relationship, and it’s not the wife. It stems from a total misunderstanding of authority and headship. Let’s see how Paul explains it.
In the above verse, he makes it clear that even within the Godhead there is headship and authority. God the Son – Christ – is under the headship of God the Father. Does that make Christ any less God? Absolutely not! He is fully God.
What then is the relationship when it comes to headship?
Jesus gave them this answer: “I tell you the truth, the Son can do nothing by himself; he can do only what he sees his Father doing, because whatever the Father does the Son also does.”
Notice what Jesus said here. He did not say that He does everything the Father tells him to do. Instead, He tells us that He does what He sees His Father doing.
The head sets the direction for the body. In my last post, we saw Paul instructing them to imitate him as he imitated Christ. This is true in any headship – authority relationship.
In my experience, the relationship of a wife to her husband is usually the same as the husband to Christ. Godly men who are serving Christ faithfully usually don’t complain about lack of authority in their families. It’s not about trying to get others to obey me, but about me getting my relationship right with the Lord.
Question: How well do you follow the headship of Christ?
© 2019 Nick Zaccardi